I’ll never forget the last in person conversation I had with with a woman I was on and off with for years because whenever there was an issue, she would just stop talking to me for months at a clip.
At one point she straight up blocked me and bragged to mutual friends about it. Friends went to me and told me to move on and that it’s her loss. Her and I didn’t talk for 2 years. In that time, I moved on to the point of getting married. Soon after I got married, she popped in to see if I was single still and lost her shit when she found out I had gotten hitched.
She tried to convince me to get a divorce and called me and idiot for getting married in the first place.
The best part… When she asked why I didn’t wait for her to “come around”. I told her she gave me no choice but to move on when she blocked me.
This was her answer: well a block is only temporary. You should have just waited for it to end then hit me up!
Yeah…. I’m so glad I didn’t.
fuck those people who play these games
People who play these games should be kneecapped
My dad nearly fell into this trap. He was engaged to a woman who would go silent for a while after an argument. Dad finally told her, “Either you’re by my side or you’re not. I’m not playing these high school games anymore. If you love me, talk to me. Otherwise, we’re done.”
He ended up marrying another woman who never played games with him and helped his better side come out.
This advise can go for anyone out there: if your SO is doing this shit, tell them to cut it out or you’re leaving. And follow through on that threat.
Get you a significant other who has good communication skills and will resolve problems together like a fucking adult
I’m a woman and I used to date a guy who did that kind of petty shit. Yeah, he turned out to be extremely abusive. Don’t date/marry any woman, or man who pulls that kind of shit. It’s not worth it.
If you ever have to witness this bullshit, you should offer up any loose piece of clothing to replace the scarf (jacket, your own scarf, anything should work from what I was told), and remove the victim from the scene. At the very least take her out of eyesight from others until she is A) calmed down from the assault and B) able to cover herself once more. And feel free to call it out for what it is, a hate crime and assault.
That is definitely a hate crime and assault.
She should take administrative action and inform everyone of this teachers name.
StopIslamophobia
my college has pamphlets they distribute with info on how your rights are protected if you experience islamaphobia yourself, and what you should do if you see it. there are actual legal issues with this and finding out your rights can absolutely help you defend them in court.
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if this post gets deleted on the 17th I’m going with it
Sounds drastic. Especially for content creators who may still need Tumblr for commissions while they find an alternative.
If you can swing it, here’s why:
I suspect that the December 17th deadline is so that Verizon/Yahoo can clean house and make Tumblr appealing to investors. This is a Q4/Q1 fire sale kind of thing. It makes a certain amount of business sense to make this change. Human-lead content curation (e.g. separating the CP from the legit) is expensive and time-consuming. I doubt they have the money for it. They already sold off Flickr. As a long-time Flickr pro user, I’m not pleased by the change and increase in pro account price, but I get it.
Investors are looking for a user base. User base is a prime attraction for investment or buy-out for a social media platform or application (I speak from experience as a co-founder of Rhinobird.tv).
Every account that is cancelled will be one less account in Tumblr’s user base for their pitch. I assume that there are millions of accounts with some percentage simply being abandoned accounts that haven’t been used in years. So cancelling one’s account on the way out the door won’t really matter unless the number of cancelled accounts reaches several hundred thousand at least.
If you decide to leave and cancel, then I also recommend sending a polite message to Tumblr staff, or tweet to the account about why you are leaving.
Finally, using Twitter to voice your concerns and thoughts about this issue will increase its visibility. They ain’t gonna like that. Media outlets that cater to tech entrepreneurs, and Silicon Valley types are going to be all over this.
I never ask for reblogs, but I will this one time.
Basically, because I know Mobile is bad with links, the article points out hat the broad, “sfw only, no titties allowed” wave on the internet in recent years is largely due to Apple’s absolute stranglehold on the App Store. Apple has strict guidelines about NSFW content that choke creators right out of mainstream social media, even on sites like Reddit, for users of their products:
But there are fewer and fewer mainstream sites and services that support porn and adult content, and much of that attitude has grown out of Apple’s strict controls over the App Store and the iOS ecosystem. Steve Jobs famously suggested that “folks who want porn can buy an Android phone,” and Apple has repeatedly leveraged its unprecedented power over millions of smartphones to sanitize the apps that are available on iPhones. Apple does not allow apps “that contain user generated content that is frequently pornographic.” In 2016, Apple famously deleted all third-party Reddit apps that allowed users to toggle NSFW posts on and off; even now, it is impossible to access porn on an iOS Reddit app unless you jump through various hoops.
remember though that this anger isn’t about Being Horny On Main, it’s about sex workers, their platforms and followers, NSFW creators and their art, and adult content communities that are continually being shoved out of spaces they created in recent years:
Tumblr’s leadership seems to believe that the community using Tumblr for adult content is the same as any other porn site—showing a serious disconnect with how its users actually interact and connect on its own platform. “We will leave it to them and focus our efforts on creating the most welcoming environment possible for our community,” he wrote.
The value of Tumblr for NSFW creators and fans was in the autonomy to curate something original, and the freedom to express and share what they’re into—something that can’t be replaced by algorithmically-suggested porn on the rest of the internet.
it was mentioned before somewhere else, but 20% of Tumblr’s traffic is brought in by content they’re now flagging as “adult”
This is yet another example of a platform ignoring adult content when it helps the platform flourish, and then leaving those users out to dry when it’s time to crack down for some monetary gain or face-saving. In addition to being a terrible way to treat your user base, banning adult content on Tumblr will stifle a lot of creativity.
The communities that will feel this change the most will be the already-marginalized. “Tumblr banning adult content is a huge loss for the LGBTQ community, especially those with overlapping marginalized identities,” Kitty Stryker, a queer porn performer and consent activist, told Motherboard in an email. “For many, that’s the one place we could find porn that represents us, made by indie performers who created their own content outside of an often racist, transmisogynist, fatphobic industry. Tumblr was where our content could exist without pushing us into the restrictions of a misogynist, male dominated workplace.”
My favorite part about all this is that even the sober, disciplined, thoughtful blogs devoted to history/science/academia are taking potshots @staff. Fucking outstanding.
As I’m sure you’ve heard by now, Tumblr is updating its community guidelines to, among other things, prohibit posts that feature photos or the depiction of certain types of human nudity. It’s a bold step forward that I’m certain had nothing to do with the Tumblr app being removed from the Apple App Store.
Apple removed the app because it had found child pornography on Tumblr that had not been caught by its filters (Tumblr uses an external database to catch illegal content like this, but the offending content had yet to be added to that database). Despite the tone of this post, I want to make it clear that child pornography should absolutely be illegal and should be removed when found. Naturally there will be some lag time between new content hitting the web and that content being added to the database. Apparently Apple’s automated audit system caught it before the database did.
Anyway, I have no issue with the removal of this content, nor with Tumblr being removed from the app store. Tumblr could have corrected the issue (or waited for the database to update) and then been readmitted. But instead Tumblr took it a step further and decided to ban all nudity on the site—kind of. Specifically this is what it says in the new guidelines:
That’s a screen grab. What the relevant portion says is (my emphasis), “Don’t upload images, videos, or GIFs that show real-life human genitals or female-presenting nipples—this includes content that is so photorealistic that it could be mistaken for featuring real-life humans (nice try, though).” The low-key snark of that parenthetical comment is probably not the wisest thing @staff has ever done.
I do sympathize with Tumblr. It’s a very difficult thing to decide what kind of nudity is and isn’t acceptable—especially when you have large companies like Apple to answer to (I guess they own Tumblr or something…? I mean, that’s what I assume, since their decisions are so important). Since they have made clear what is and isn’t acceptable, though, I wanted to join in the spirit of it and add some new content that Tumblr will not object to! Below is a photo of my MALE-PRESENTINGnipple (as I am a cisgendered male who presents as a cisgendered male, and who further insists that his nipples present as male as well):
There we are! Nice and wholesome. Since this is the type of content that Tumblr is now about, I encourage you all to reblog this with your own images of, again, MALE-PRESENTING nipples. I’m just delighted to be the owner of a pair of inoffensive nipples that apparently anyone can see. My condolences to the rest.
On a serious note, if you’ve followed this blog beforehand, you may have seen this ask from a few days ago, which quite coincidentally occurred before all this happened. You know that my Tumblr is about as SFW as it gets, and I’m not here to peruse NSFW content. I am here because of the community. If this latest change in Tumblr policy adversely affects the culture of this site and the amount of users who spend their internet time here, this may be it for me too. I’ll hold out till the 18th and see what happens. If I do go, I’ll leave this Tumblr up indefinitely, and you’ll always be able to find me at my site artoflanguageinvention.com. I’ll be somewhere. If you want to find me, you’ll be able to.
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ADDENDUM: Oh, you know what? I just realized. The guidelines say that we can’t show female-presenting nipples starting on the 18th, and look what I did! I just assumed that meant only male-presenting nipples are okay. How cisnormative of me! If only female-presenting nipples are banned, then that means genderfluid-presenting nipples should be okay—NOT just male-presenting nipples! So feel free to reblog with your genderfluid-presenting nipples, too! Just be sure to emphasize that your nipples are conscientious objects to the gender binary and do not conform to gender norms. (Also due to how the sentence is written, I believe the gender thing only applies to the nipples—not necessarily the rest of the human being the nipples are attached to [e.g. you could be cisgender male but have genderfluid nipples]. Something to keep in mind.)
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